Tuesday, June 27, 2017

we all want to wear what we are told we aren't supposed to.

top on mannequin // top in collage // jeans // necklace // belt // shoes

Last weekend I went up to Cleveland with my mom and my sister, and we stopped at the mall just to look around (and buy lipstick). We walked around Madewell, mostly admiring their totes (mine is now five years old and has seen much better days). As we were walking out of the store, I saw the outfit on top, and immediately stopped to snap a picture of it because I loved  the look - high waisted skinny jeans, a loose half tucked top, an open neckline. It was just so cool.

I uploaded the picture to instastories to share, and said I wish I could pull of the look. In my mind, that look only looks good on the thinner, straighter body typed girls. A bunch of fellow hourglass women shared my sentiment...and one said, why the hell can't you?

That's right, why can't I? Of course I can. But I've been spending years finding "the most flattering" way of dressing, and not just trying to make looks and trends work on my body. High waisted skinny jeans that showcase my size 10-12 hips, and a shirt that doesn't cover them has never really been something I've considered. I feel like about once a year I come to the conclusion that I should "stop playing by the rules" and just wear the outfits I think are cute without being so so SO concerned that it's not THE MOST FLATTERING ever. I don't really actively discuss how every outfit I show on here is about "finding clothes that flatter your body" because sometimes I fail (hard), but I do try to find clothes that look good on me and that I actually want to wear. That's why I order so many clothes and review them - because for every one piece of clothing I keep, I try on at least five that didn't work at all on me. But then you start figuring out what looks good on you, and you keep just buying variations of that same thing. Over. And over. And over again.

Maybe sometimes being in a clothing rut is because we don't feel comfortable trying new things, so you keep wearing the old ones, and then the rut continues. And continues. And continues. Until you have five years worth of pictures that document the same kind of style, just in different patterns and colors. I look through my closet, full of clothes that fit me and am just so bored. I see outfits like the one above and just wish I felt comfortable enough with my body and bold enough to just put it on and not care that maybe there are pant styles that are more flattering or that a top that goes in at the waist may be better for my frame. Maybe I just want someone to look at my outfit and think "wow, good for her for wearing something she loves, she really seems confident in that outfit" rather than "that girl sure found a way to minimize her larger bust and show off her waist without showing off her love handles". Doesn't that statement make me sound like a crazy person? Because I bet you that not a single one of you thinks that...but that's what I think every day when I get dressed.

So... I bought the damn jeans and the shirt. Because I loved the look and it's been a long time since I saw a whole outfit and just wanted it immediately. Maybe I'll try it on and go dammmmnnn I look good, won't this be fun to wear on a date sometime or to dinner with a girlfriend or just for an afternoon walking around Home Depot.

Or maybe they just really won't suit me and I'll try something else.

But I'll never know until I actually try.

Sunday, June 25, 2017

top three [06.25.2017]

a few updates around the house: actual chairs to sit on //  no trees :( // our new countertop!

spotted //
  • Buying denim shorts is pretty much the worst. I'm hopefully that this rolled pair from Gap is exactly what I've been looking for. 
  • A polka dotted linen skirt is basically the cutest thing I've seen all week. 
  • After spotting these Madewell jeans while at the mall yesterday, I decided it's time I finally try some higher waisted skinny jeans. I love the look on others, so I want to try to make it work for me too!

on the internet //

throwback //

ask me anything //
  • I'm an Ob/Gyn wannabe at medical school in Canada and applying for residency this year. Not sure if it's different in the US, but here we are encouraged to apply for more than one specialty to reduce the chances of going unmatched. I'm wondering whether you thought about applying to another specialty as a backup, and what you think you would have done if you'd had to deal with going unmatched.
    • Oh man, that's such a tough one to really answer because I know the matching system is different here in the US than it is in Canada. I chose not to apply to a back up speciality. I personally would have been really unhappy if I didn't get to do ObGyn, and it would have been unfair to a field like internal or family medicine for me to have that as my backup, because I just don't have the passion for it. All of my friends who are doing IM/FM really love it, and I know it wasn't for me. So while I was wrestling with the idea of having a backup, I chose to take a big chance and throw all my efforts into matching ObGyn. If I hadn't matched, which obviously is always a real possibility, I wasn't 100% sure what I was going to do. It's hard to answer now retrospectively - CR and I discussed me scrambling into to a transition year spot so that I could re-apply to ObGyn, but I am so so so thankful that I didn't have to go down that route. Best of luck in this crazy process!
  • What kind of bag did you bring around to classes during medical school? Would you recommend something more formal than a backpack?
    • During the week, I used a leather tote bag from Kate Spade (mine was very similar to this). My school had a dress code, so I liked looking a bit more pulled together. On the weekend, I would use my Everlane backpack for carrying all my books (and bookstand and noise canceling headphones and snacks) to the library. I personally liked having something a bit more formal for when I was at school, but that's just me! 
  • You graduated from a DO school, but are doing an MD residency. Will you be able to use both MD and DO after your name?
    • No, I earned a DO in medical school, so that's what goes after my name! 

on franish //

notable sales //

at home //
  • Lots of things happening at the house this week! We wrapped up "Phase 1" of the projects - so now everything is painted, all the receptacles and switches and hinges and door knobs are replaced, and all most lights are switched out. Now we are doing the fun things, like building floating shelves and painting the fireplace! My gold bookshelf also arrived, as did our dining room chairs (although still no table). It's slowly coming together!
  • One more week you guys, and I officially start residency! We have about two weeks of orientation, and then I start on gyn surgery. I am so nervous. 
  • My mom was here this week to help my sister move into her place and to help me with some house projects (hello, white fireplace!). It's been so nice to have family around and explore our new surroundings! 

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

house plans: the bedroom

hi guys!

is this the worst style blog of all time?


Anyway, not much going on here besides house things all day, every day. A lot of people have commented that we are really banging out the projects, and to be honest, we have really been hustling. We want our house to be pretty much set by the time we start residency - CR starts next week, and I start the week after, so we want to have a livable house by that time. We're getting there!

Thank you for all of your helpful suggestions on my post about our downstairs - I'm just patiently waiting for our dining room table and couch to come (...any week now...). I am still looking for the right dining room chairs - I've decided that even with a cat, we will probably go with upholstered chairs, something like these ones from Wayfair, that can easily be vacuumed off when we have guests. Still looking for a rug and coffee table as well...among other things.

But today we're talking about our bedroom!

So this is basically what it looked like before - a pretty typical 11 x 14 foot room. It has as small closet to the right of this picture that we had already decided was going to be CR's closet (as my office has a closet). Like the rest of the house, we painted it a light grey color, painted the trim white, retouched the ceiling, and replaced all of the outlets with white ones. We also removed that super dated boob light (any one else call them that?!) with an awesome black ceiling fan (our cat is obsessed with it!). Since we both will be working nights during residency, we are putting in black out blinds in the windows...and then probably getting some kind of curtain (...still tbd). This is the after:
As far as actual things in the room...

We have a queen sized bed, and have this dark grey headboard from Overstock - we've had it for two years now, and it looks brand new, so highly recommend if you are looking for something new! Our one set of older bedding has definitely seen better days (cat claws and non-textured fabric are just not a good combo) so it has been donated. I just ordered this beautiful duvet from Pottery Barn as our other duvet (they just had a great bedding sale, so keep an eye out for code if you are interested!). We still have our older night stands from Ikea and our bedside lamps (that I spray painted black to match the rest of the hardware in the house). CR's dresser is actually the first piece of furniture his parents bought when they got married, and so we have repainted it the same white as the trim, and made the drawers a dark navy. We used the old cupboard pulls that we replaced in the kitchen as the new knobs - saves us a bit of money for something you can't really see anyway! I love that the dresser has such a great story behind it (it used to be CR's changing table too), and I can't wait for it to eventually be a changing table for the next little one in the family. In a house with so much "new", it's nice to have some history too. 

Under the bed we put a rug (you can see the concept in the top picture - that outside square is the rug, not the bed). I was debating between something darker, like a really dark navy rug, or something with a bit more lighter colors in it. We decided on the lighter rug in the end because it was a bit more modern and brighten up the room. I can't wait to show you what it looks like! 

I would also like to add a chic mini symmetrical gallery wall above the bed - I was thinking something like these sleek black frames from Framebridge with some pictures from our past years together...and maybe a space or two for wedding pictures ;) I think it would be the perfect finishing touch. 

Other than that, we have a whole corner and mini wall to by the door to come up with something for - mini table for CR's things? Corner bookshelf? Giant plant? Any suggestions are welcome!

Saturday, June 17, 2017

top three [06.18.2017]

I'll take one of each from Everlane's new beach collection: dress // shorts // sweatshirt

spotted //

on the internet //

throwback //

notable sales // 

on franish //

at home // 
  • This was our first week in our house and boy, have we been busy! We are just about done with all the painting - every single wall and piece of trim in the house was painted, so it's taken us almost a whole month to get it done. A few pieces of furniture have arrived (notably my dresser and gold bookstand), light fixtures have been changed out (no more boob lights!), and door hardware is almost all done being exchanged. I can't wait to share all the progress we have made!
  • After a month away from any form of real exercise, I went to my first Orange Theory class on Friday - it was such a great work out! My co-intern Marissa and I immediately signed up for a monthly membership. Having the membership will force us to at least work out four times a month during intern year ;)
  • On Friday, us incoming interns were invited to our residency's graduation banquet. It was so much fun to hang out with my co-interns and our future upperclassmen. It made it all seem so real - two more weeks until I officially start! 

ps. happy fathers day to my own dad, who I know does not read my blog, but deserves a shoutout anyway! 

Friday, June 16, 2017

love for elemis 24/7 super skin system

I am working with QVC to review some of the products they sell. I am receiving compensation to review these products, but all the opinions are always my own. I'm excited to share these amazing skin care products with you!

One of my favorite parts about blogging has been that I get to try new products quite often - as I continue to try to perfect my daily skin care routine, it has been such a treat to try skincare products from brands new to me. One of those lately has been Elemis!

Elemis is a British brand that is now sold on QVC that is science led and results driven. QVC sells a bunch of their products currently, from toners to enzyme peels to face oils. I got to try out their three piece collection plus their rose scrub, and honestly, I can't pick a favorite because they are all amazing in their own way.

ELEMIS Pro-Collagen Cleansing Balm
I was initially the most excited about the cleansing balm because I am always on the look out for a new way to remove my makeup. The Elemis cleansing balm has a very clean smell to it. I take about a dime sized amount out of the jar, rub it between my fingers to liquify it slightly, and then rub it all over my eyes and face to remove my make-up. After rinsing with water, all of my make-up is gone, and it doesn't leave a residue like I've found with other balms I've used in the past. I took this with me to Ireland, and used it the whole time I was there - the container is perfect for traveling because nothing can spill out of it or leak. 
 ELEMIS Pro-Collagen Marine Cream
The other two items in the set are the Night Recovery cream-oil, and the Pro-Collagen day cream. I love that it's very clear about when to use each product and that they are formulated for either moisturizing under your make-up, or for your skin recovering overnight. Over the years, I've really found that you just need different products depending on what time of the day it is. The night recovery cream-oil combo is a new one for me - it looks like a cream, but has the highly moisturizing effects of an oil. You know I'm currently all about the face oils, so I love how moisturized my skin feels after using this. I use this on the nights I don't use my prescription retinoid. 
 Elemis Gentle Rose Exfoliator
Not included in the three part set, but one I wanted to mention, is the Elemis Gentle Rose Exfoliator. As someone with dry and flaky skin, I am constantly looking for something to help with making my skin look fresh and not dull. If you love the smell of roses as much as I do (my grandma has a huge rose garden and the smell of roses always reminds me of her), you will love this scrub. It's definitely on the gentle side, so I use it about every third day. It removes all of those flaky spots without rubbing your face raw, which is something I've experienced with harsher scrubs in the past. I usually follow with a face mask and then the recovery oil. My skin glows the next morning 👌

QVC is currently selling the 3 part set for $99 (if purchased each item separately, it would be over $250!). Below are a few more Elemis items being sold on QVC. I have my eye on the bliss capsules - they are basically little capsules with concentrated oil, which I think is just so clever. 

Thursday, June 15, 2017

visiting kylemore abbey

Women's Cargo Vest Dark Green - Mossimo
You know who's supposedly a style blogger, goes on vacation, and forgot her memory card for her fancy camera?

This girl.

I didn't notice until we went to go take outfit pictures on one of the last days of the trip, which is why I didn't go and buy a new one. I was still so mad at myself! Luckily I remembered this post that AJ wrote some months ago about the portrait mode on iPhones working pretty well in these kind of situations, and you know what, it actually worked pretty well!

Anyway, enough about #bloggerproblems. These were taken on our last full day in Ireland, when we drove from Galway to visit Kylemore Abbey. What a beautiful place! Built in the 1800s, it is a former castle turned monastery situated on a gorgeous lake in Connemara, about an hour north west of Galway. I saw pictures of it while doing my research for our trip, and knew I wanted to go see it. Unfortunately, half of the building was undergoing renovations (as you can see in some of the pictures) but it didn't take away from the real estate message of location location location! It is seriously stunning. I really wish we had had more time to go walk through the gardens, as everyone says they are gorgeous...but as always, we need something to come back for, so next time!

The weather in Ireland was the best because it was cool all the time - you guys know that summer weather is not my favorite, so having a week in 50-60 degree weather was amazing! I wore a variation of this outfit most days we were there. I've owned this vest from Target for a few months now, but just realized it's the first time I've actually shown it on the blog! If you were reading blogs about 4-5 years ago, you know that these olive vests were a big thing then...and I actually owned a similar version that I donated two years ago because I wasn't wearing it anymore. Well, here we are, now I own another version. I actually like this Target version so much more though - it's longer and drapers nicer than my previous version. It's just the perfect layering piece that adds a bit of warmth and a lot more interest than if I had just worn a long sleeved tee. Anyway, I'm a big fan of it!
what to wear in ireland
kylemore abbey
vest //  target [exact]
jeans // gap [exact now 50% off]
tee // banana republic [exact]
scarf //  ann taylor [similar]
shoes // michael kors [exact - debating getting the black ones!]
purse // coach [similar]

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

house plans: the downstairs

This is a long overdue post - I wanted to post it the week that we closed on the house, but then actually working on the house, graduation, Ireland, and moving have all taken over my life for the past month...so here we are, a month overdue! I wanted to share what the house looked like room by room, and what my initial plans for the space are! When we went for our inspection, I went through all the major rooms and measured out the rooms so I could have an idea of what we were working with. Below are my simple drawings, actual pictures, and a few ideas for furniture and decorations for the downstairs. We will cover the upstairs in a separate post! 

Our plan for the house was really to make it feel bright and light and welcoming. We ended up painting all of the walls a light grey (universal grey by Glidden), have painted all of the trim and doors bright white, and replaced all of the yellowing outlets and switches with white ones. We are in the process of exchanging all of the door hinges and door knobs (we went with these black ones). We are going with black hardware throughout, which I really love because there is less variation between items, and it ties it all together. I'm very new to this house thing, so I really want to make it as simple as possible to keep it cohesive. 

It's crazy looking at these pictures because it already looks so different in the house (which if you follow along on instastories, you already know!), but those final reveals are for another post ;)

kitchen //